Want a little inside information into the world of men? If you want to have a great relationship, keep your relationship together, or mend a relationship, then you do. I’m sure there are many secrets into a man’s heart, but today we will cover what is probably the most important one. Respect.
The men I have spoken with over the course of my lifetime, regarding relationships, haven’t come right out and said they needed to be respected (almost as if they hadn’t put a word to it), but when I say the word, they agree – that’s it! It’s not that they purposefully want to be egotistical or prideful. They just want to feel like a man. It’s part of their DNA. It’s the way God made them. A respected man, is a happy man. Just like a loved woman, is a happy woman.
(Here’s a little disclaimer before I continue…spiritually and emotionally healthy men will respond to respectful actions by their lady and will love more deeply because of those actions. Spiritually and emotionally sick men will not and need professional help. This is true for either gender.)
Ladies, how do we respect our man? Here is a list of statements from real, Christian husbands who have been vulnerable enough to share their thoughts and help us learn.
I asked several men to finish this sentence, “I feel most respected when my wife _____.”
Here are the responses:
“…puts toothpaste on my toothbrush at night just to be nice.”
“…makes a homemade meal and keeps my clothes clean.”
“…listens to me, when I need to talk, whether or not she agrees with me or thinks I’m ridiculous.”
“…gives me the last say after we have both had input regarding a decision.”
“…brags on me.”
“…thanks me and appreciates me for doing things around the house, yard work, and cooking.”
“…holds my hand.”
“…lifts me up when I’m feeling down by reminding me how many people I have led to Christ. She reminds me that I’m worth something and that God doesn’t make trash.”
My sincere thanks to all the men who shared with me to help those who are curious about what respect really is. Of course, everyone is different and because of that, I challenge you ladies out there to ask the same question to your man and see what he says. Then purpose to meet his need in that specific way. And if you’re curious, yes, there will be an article about how to love women.
“Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies…a wife should respect her husband.” Ephesians 5