Okay, men. Ready? You know that female in your life who you think is complicated? Maybe she’s your wife, fiancé, or girlfriend. The secret is she’s not as complicated as you thought. And it’s all very simple. What a relief, right?
For you ladies taking a curious peek at this writing, you will secretly be hoping your husband or man in your life would read this. You may even be contemplating how you could sneak him a copy.
Let’s get right to it. There is an epidemic of numb marriages out there, and it doesn’t have to be that way. The secret is…women want to feel loved. Be loved. Live in love. That’s not to say this is a perfect world, with perfect people, and perfect marriages. I wish. But loving the woman in your life can be very simple when pride, stubbornness, and selfishness is put aside. (The same goes for us, ladies.) Actually, it could be argued that loving your wife the way she needs to be loved is selfish and will benefit you greatly. How’s that? Because when she feels loved, you will be her hero. When a woman has a hero, she is accommodating in so many ways. And, yes, even in the way you guys crave and need (that is the G-rated version.) In other words, loving your wife = wonderful things for you too. When men fail to love their helpmate, they can watch her heart slowly shrivel.
Here’s the hard fact: men are supposed to be the spiritual leader of the home. And since the leader leads, be the first one to initiate loving your lady and see if she returns the kindness with respect for you. Countless women I have spoken with through the years have weighed in and agree.
Guys, how do you know if you’re meeting her need for love? I highly encourage you to ask her that question, but this will get you started. I asked several Christian wives to finish this sentence, “I feel loved when my husband ______.” Here’s what they said…
“…helps out around the house when he sees something needs to be done (without me having to ask) like laundry or making the kids lunches.”
“…acknowledges and appreciates the little things I do to keep the house running smoothly.”
“…listens to me when I need to talk or cry, no matter the issue.”
“…fixes a cup of coffee for me, just the way I like it.”
“…leaves hand written notes reminding me of his love for me in my lunch or on my car.”
“…rubs my neck.”
“…fixes my car as soon as there is a problem.”
“…believes in me, supports me, is compassionate with me, and does things for me simply to bring me happiness.”
Okay, guys. It’s that simple. Here’s the challenge…if you’re already showing love, great! But if you’re not so hot at it, let today be the day to turns things around. The secret’s out, so run with it. Be her hero today and every day!
With the love of our Lord,
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” Ephesians 5:25